Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Abusive Men

It's Sunny here.

Women of Texas (or wherever) unite! Why do y'all continue putting up with assholes, abusers, lazy asses, druggies, drop outs, racists, control freaks, chauvinists, liars, and mooches? (Okay, okay, I give. I've done it many times myself.)

  • Do you really think he was just teasing when he wanted to see your teenage daughter show her tits or even patted her on the ass?
  • How many times can he lose a job because "they" just don't appreciate him (or his beer breath or constant call-ins or whatever)?
  • Why do his mood swings always show up on weekends when his buddies are visiting even though he doesn't do "that shit" (i.e, drugs) anymore?
  • How many second chances do you give a guy who hits you even though you wouldn't dream of seeing your mom, daughter, cousin, best friend, niece, roommate get abused?
  • Why is everything always your fault?
  • Why does he get mad every time you try to better yourself? He says it's you're way of putting him down, right?
  • Why does he see your friends, family, co-workers, or even total strangers as such a threat?
  • How does he take care of you, exactly? Can you actually say how he contributes positively to your life, livelihood, and well-being?
  • If he drinks around your family after you've asked him not to (even on holidays), why do you expect him to change?
  • Why are you worthless when you have a job and keep up with the kids and cook and clean the house and kiss that's asshole's butt trying your best to make him happy?
  • How does he treat your kids, really? When they were born, would you have dreamed of letting anyone talk to your kids that way? Would you have let your family or in-laws or teachers or anyone hit them or cuss them? So why can this guy get away with it?
  • If every bad joke or snide comment is about Spics, niggers, Hebes, Polacks, crackers, or wetbacks, why do you think he's not racist?
  • Do you even have a life of your own anymore? You know, friends, nights out with the girls, family get-togethers, lunches with co-workers, alone time outside of your home? He controls everything, even phone time, doesn't he?

If you see a pattern here, it's time to change it, but you knew that already, didn't you? Why spend so much of your time miserable? Is he that great? He may have started out as your dream guy, but he's not anymore, and he's not gonna change. It might take you two, three, twenty, ninety tries, but work up the courage to move on. He'll keep coming back or trying to control you or woo you or convince you he's changed, but how long does that really last?

Texas women (and women all over) are pretty damn strong. I have faith in you. Find your support network and stand up for yourself. You're too good to put up with that asshole. Who knows? Dump him for good, stand firm (even when he calls or you hear "your" song or you see pics of you two together on that one great weekend), and you could finally, actually find the guy you were looking for all along!

Sunny

Thursday, February 15, 2007

American Rights, 101

Thanks to Dallas for providing the latest rant regarding rights in this great U.S. of A. The Dallas City Council recently approved an ordinance allowing dogs on restaurant patios.

Before I begin my rant, let me state that I'm all for this step forward, which is how I see it. (I lived in Germany as a non-military, non-student guest of friends. Once I got used to dogs in pubs and restaurants, I saw no problem with it. Dogs that didn't mind either weren't brought out at all, or the owners were quickly reprimanded by other patrons without the hesitation or embarrassment Americans might exhibit.)

So what's bugging me? Dogs now have more rights than smokers in Dallas County. I liked Laura Miller as a writer; I can't stand her as a mayor. Unfortunately, I don't actually live in Dallas County and don't have a vote there. Thanks to her, law-abiding citizens can no longer smoke there. Which reminds me, I have a great quote. I don't think this person was there when the vote was cast for non-smoking in Dallas County, but read his quote as is: “Animals are their children. I can’t blame anyone” for wanting to dine with their pets, Deputy Mayor Pro Tem Elba Garcia said. “You have a choice. You don’t have to be there. The standards are clear in this ordinance. More than anything, it’s an option for our businesses here.” (1) Thank you Deputy Mayor Pro Tem Elba Garcia for saying that patrons have a choice! Even though he was talking about animals, he endorsed the option for patrons going or not going to a business while also emphasizing that the business had the option of having animals or not. So, WHY NOT THE SAME WITH SMOKING???

On to my rant: I'm tired of our country ignoring and suppressing the rights of those who aren't breaking the law. New York and California have led the fight. Don't those of you who call California and New York liberals "wackos" think it's ironic that you're endorsing their actions? Texas has become Republican over the years, but how does it make sense that those of you who wouldn't dream of giving up your gun rights or property rights or speech rights or the right to eat whatever the hell you want are supporting anti-smoking laws and ordinances? Now, take a moment to really read about this before reacting instead of thinking.

  • You have the right to eat or not eat, drink or not drink, socialize or not socialize, where you want.
  • Law-abiding citizens in America have the right to go where they want. They can choose to give or not give an establishment their business.
  • Smoking and chewing tobacco are legal for those 18 and over.
  • Businesses pay for land, buildings, property taxes and/or leases out of their own pockets.
  • Business owners should be able to do and sell what they want out of their businesses as long as the product/service is legal, and as long as they keep up their taxes, permits, licenses, and their payments on the property.
  • Adults ages 18 and older can legally smoke or chew tobacco in most states. They can legally vote, drive, serve in the military, sign contracts, marry, and make legal decisions. What gives you the right to tell them what they can and can't do? And please don't tell me they're infringing upon your rights; as an adult, you can choose to frequent or not frequent an establishment, do or not do as you like. As an American, this is your right!
  • Business, like life, includes give and take, practical experience(s) upon which to weigh decisions, and some sacrifice(s). Some businesses choose to be non-smoking knowing that they'll lose customers. Some businesses choose to allow smoking knowing that they'll lose customers. Some businesses choose to have smoking/non-smoking sections knowing that they won't make all of their customers happy. Now, think about this: Some businesses cater to children, some to gays, some to singles, some to the rich, some to the big and tall, some to smokers. Some businesses sell clothing, some books, some furniture. Some businesses sell organic foods, some weapons, some athletic gear. Some sell memorabilia, some liquor, some gourmet foods. Some businesses sell plants, some car parts, some appliances. Some sell entertainment. Are any of these places wrong? No, they cater to their clientele and should be allowed to serve what their clients want.
  • Law-abiding business owners in good standing should be able to choose how to run their own businesses.
Not everyone smokes. That's good. Not everyone thinks about rights they can lose down the line because they're so willing to bitch about their "own rights". That's not good. Give it ten years before they're taking away something you like, even if their motives are contradictory. They don't even have to conquer; they just have to win over the mind of the majority.

If you're a griper, saying that any smoking exposure, no matter how small, could give you lung cancer, gimme a break! Let me give you a checklist. Even if you're vegetarian, you'll being lying if you don't admit to eating some or most of these recently:
  • Fried chicken/Buffalo wings
  • Chinese buffets
  • Macaroni and cheese/Fried okra/Fried fish/Hush puppies/Mashed potatoes and gravy
  • Fast food hamburgers/Fried chicken or steak sandwiches/Chicken nuggets/Steak fingers
  • Fast food french fries/Tater tots/Home fries/Fried potatoes of any sort
  • Pancakes/Waffles/French toast
  • Ice cream and other frozen treats
  • Chocolate/Strawberry milk
  • Fried pies/Pop Tarts/Donuts/Breakfast pastries
  • Restaurant Mexican food
  • Cookies/Pies/Cakes/Fudge/Brownies/Divinity
  • White bread and mayonnaise sandwiches of any sort
  • Preserves/Jellies/Cream cheeses
  • White rice dishes of any sort
  • Most sweetened juices
  • Restaurant/Frozen pizzas
  • Creamy salad dressings
  • Sausage (homemade/pizza/breakfast/fast food/game/summer)
  • Most cheeses
  • Most canned goods (soups, vegetables, sauces, "meals")
  • Potato/Corn/Wheat chips or crackers
  • White flour tortillas and bread
  • Nuts, especially roasted or honey
What am I saying? Basically, the American diet isn't so great. Those of you who eat a large portion of this trash and bitch about smokers; or those of you who eat most of this trash and weigh 200+ pounds and bitch about secondary smoke; or those of you who eat all this trash and bitch and weigh whatever; oughta wake up!

Check your diet before deciding an hour or two near secondhand smoke once a week/month/year is killing you. If you spend more time (in a public place) than that near secondhand smoke, and you want to bitch about it, then Go to another place. Stay home. No one is forcing you to be there! Or talk to the owner: he/she pays the bills and may decide after enough input that he/she wants a non-smoking establishment. That's the owner's choice, not yours or the city's or the state's or the government's! The owner should weigh the options and decide without ordinances telling him/her what to do.

I'm sick of all the whining and crying in this country about not liking something or move that or change this or get that out of my sight because everything has become offensive. Guess what? As an adult American, you can: change the channel, not go to that establishment, refuse to buy a ticket to that show or movie or play, warn all your friends and family to stay away from that establishment or production, walk away or walk out, not spend any money there, not buy their products, refuse their services.

Adult Americans choose for themselves, not for others (except their kids). That's what makes us so great. Law-abiding American adult citizens can choose what we believe or how we act or where we go or whom we do business with or what we buy or what we watch or what we listen to or what we study or what we say or whom we keep company with or what we eat and drink and smoke, but we don't have a right to choose those things for other adults. Americans choose based on their own path and beliefs, even with propaganda and pressure and advertising and temptation. That's the way it should be.

Sunny

(1) Dallas Morning News, 1/25/07 by Dave Levinthal.

Kudos to Kenneth Englund

It's Sunny here. [Not. Nighttime and very cold but can't complain with what's goin' on up north.]

Once upon a time, in a land called the United States of America, thieves crept onto a man's property (actually, a neighbor's vacant property) and began to steal. The non-thief (i.e., innocent local landowner) heard or saw something that wasn't quite right. Since he lives out in the boonies, he was especially vigilant because neighbors and law enforcement weren't exactly 200 feet or 20 yards or even two blocks away. That's just called livin' in the country. Sometimes you find or see or hear things while you're out inspectin' your property or drivin' around or just lookin' out the window. So Mr. Englund catches a couple of thieves in the middle of the act and then chases after them with an unloaded shotgun. Now Mr. Englund is facing a couple of charges. Is this for real?

Fortunately for my headache, the people of the area, state, and country are coming out offering Mr. Englund support. This 74-year-old man did nothing wrong, even if the goddamn gun had been loaded and he had shot(!), thank you very much. I hope the prosecutor comes to his senses up there in good ol' Minnesota.

People in all areas of our country hear the worst all the time about methheads (and other druggies), serial killers, pedophiles, and plain-old goddamn thieves. So can they be overly paranoid? Yes, but people in our country have also always been taught to defend themselves, other people, and property against those kinds of people. Not indiscriminately, of course. And not that they were always druggies, serial killers, and pedophiles. Thieves have been around forever, but other scumbags, like rapists, snake oil salesmen, and rural home invaders have always existed, and defending ourselves against them is ingrained in the American psyche.

Although the charges against Mr. Englund have been reduced, they still exist, and continuing this persecution and prosecution of Mr. Englund makes zero sense. Even the male thief says so! Shit, now my headache is back just thinking about it!

Once upon a time, in a land called the United States of America, thieves crept onto a man's property (actually, a neighbor's vacant property) and began to steal. The non-thief (i.e., innocent local landowner) heard or saw something that wasn't quite right. Since he lives out in the boonies, he was especially vigilant because neighbors and law enforcement weren't exactly 200 feet or 20 yards or even two blocks away. That's just called livin' in the country. Sometimes you find or see or hear things while you're out inspectin' your property or drivin' around or just lookin' out the window. So Mr. Englund catches a couple of thieves in the middle of the act and then chases after them with an unloaded shotgun. The sheriff's department apprehends them due to the local man's actions. Mr. Englund receives: a citizenry award from the local sheriff's department, a year's supply of free shotgun shells from the local shops, a potluck dinner hosted by his church and the township, a hearty thank-you-and-anything-you-need handshake from his neighbor, a free tank of gas for his truck from the nearest gas station, and 10 lottery tickets from an anonymous yet grateful citizen. Now that's life in America as it should be.

Sunny

Sunday, February 11, 2007

Anti-Valentine's Day

Quick post to beat the rush: Valentine's Day sucks if you don't have anybody (and many times, it sucks even if you do have someone)!

Period. End of story. No arguments please. All efforts to enlighten me will result in my making fun of you and substantively proving that the only person you're fooling (besides your mother) is yourself.

Anna Nicole Monroe

It's Sunny here. [Not! Gray and chilly.]

What's up with comparing Anna Nicole Smith to Marilyn Monroe, other than her looks? Is anyone else tired of it? Honestly, I was out of the loop for more than a day and didn't even know the woman was dead for about 24 hours. My mom said, "You didn't know? That's all we've heard about for two days!" Again, why? What did she contribute to this world, really? Great people die all the time and get less press. She did nothing except dye her hair, get a boob job, and spend money that wasn't hers after using an ailing old man. He was what, about 60 years older than her!? If your elderly parents or your grandma or great-grandfather or Aunt Bess or whoever in your family was being taken advantage of, wouldn't you fight it too? And not just for the money? I'd be madder than hell! Yes, technically, she won (or will win, even in death, but what a scummy way to get your fortune).

Back to my point: At least Marilyn Monroe had some talent that she worked on and honed even to the point of receiving praise from critics and fans. I'm not saying she was Katherine Hepburn, but she made the effort. Anna Nicole Smith did nothing except try to look good (or sleazy or buxom or tartish or whatever her mood was at that moment), and she used people to get all of those perks, with no regard for anyone but herself. All of the media keeps talking about how she "doted" on her son who died recently; if you read the fine print, you'll see she left her (then) infant son with her mother to go be a titty dancer in Houston. Yep, that's devotion for ya.

Give me a break, please. I'm sorry for her family and young daughter, but she doesn't deserve the front page, much less the time I've taken to write this.